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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

wow... there's an "insert flash" button on this thing. that's... .amazing. sorry. i'm a web designer/developer... .so i'll for sure get distracted with the 1999-ish design here. but i digress... .

i just wanted to post a quick intro message before my (almost definitely BPD) girlfriend wakes up to check on me again.  i just found this place and did a little lurking on the other messages here... .and i'm just so relieved to find familiar sounding stories. i'm just learning about BPD, as well as all the struggles/side effects/results of being a non, and it's finally making me feel less crazy. my partner is also OCD and ADHD, and recently is in recovery from alcoholism. i knew there was something *else* though... .now this seems to be the last piece of the puzzle. i recognized early on that these outbursts and actions had to be a result of an internal mental health struggle, but have been attempting to (fairly poorly) balance that patience with the attention on my *own* mental health issues and self-care.

and as a very self-aware and introspective person, i am incredibly conflicted on whether i should stay or should i go (someone should write a song about that :P ) so i think this community (along with my own therapist who's amazing, btw) will be an invaluable resource.

and now... .i must use some of these AAAAMMMAZZING old school animated gif emojis.     

[callmemoonshine]

wow... there's an "insert flash" button on this thing. that's... .amazing. sorry. i'm a web designer/developer... .so i'll for sure get distracted with the 1999-ish design here. but i digress... .

i just wanted to post a quick intro message before my (almost definitely BPD) girlfriend wakes up to check on me again.  i just found this place and did a little lurking on the other messages here... .and i'm just so relieved to find familiar sounding stories. i'm just learning about BPD, as well as all the struggles/side effects/results of being a non, and it's finally making me feel less crazy. my partner is also OCD and ADHD, and recently is in recovery from alcoholism. i knew there was something *else* though... .now this seems to be the last piece of the puzzle. i recognized early on that these outbursts and actions had to be a result of an internal mental health struggle, but have been attempting to (fairly poorly) balance that patience with the attention on my *own* mental health issues and self-care.

and as a very self-aware and introspective person, i am incredibly conflicted on whether i should stay or should i go (someone should write a song about that :P ) so i think this community (along with my own therapist who's amazing, btw) will be an invaluable resource.

and now... .i must use some of these AAAAMMMAZZING old school animated gif emojis.     

[formflier]

Check out this one...




Hopefully she didn't catch you.  Privacy is key.  Keep this place to yourself.

Look right... click on choosing a path and do some reading.  I'm interested in your thoughts.


 
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[Notwendy]

The Clash did write one in the 80's " Should I Stay Or Should I Go".

They didn't answer their own question though- and we don't answer this for others either. Hopefully you will arrive at the best decision for you thought posting and reading through the lessons on this board.

[Cat Familiar]

You're dealing with a lot with your GF--BPD, OCD, ADHD and alcoholism. It's hard enough to cope with just one of these DX in a partner.

So you've been trying your best to be patient and not overly consumed by her mental health crises and you're attempting to decide whether you want to continue with this relationship.

How about listing positives and negatives about staying or leaving her?

[callmemoonshine]

How about listing positives and negatives about staying or leaving her?

yes! that is an excellent idea. i'm gonna make that my homework this weekend /next week.     

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so i'll for sure get distracted with the 1999-ish design here. but i digress... .

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