Hi redlily,
You're name is so evocative of a beautiful flower.
Yes, dealing with a partner who has BPD can be totally exhausting. I know. I came here in crisis a few years ago.
But now things are great. We almost never have conflicts and when one arises, I now know how to speak his language and not trigger him further--something I had no clue about at first. I'm a very logical thinker and he's a very emotional feeler, but highly intelligent.
When I first came here I couldn't understand why all my logical interventions with him made things worse. Now I know. I wasn't speaking in the language of emotions.
Please take some time, read the side bar and look through this site--there's a ton of information. It's great that you're listening to Eggshells. It will give you a good overview.
How can we help you?
Cat
