Hi AboutHadIt,
Welcome to the the BPD Family
I'm so glad you decided to jump in and post, everyone here has someone in their lives with BPD or BPD Traits. We get you here.
It sounds like you are going through a very stressful time, not just for your husband but for you as well. First things first is some self-care for you, are you able to squeeze in anytime for yourself in the midst of all this? A nice hot bubble bath, a short walk around the neighborhood, call a friend and just chat for a little while... .Particularly with these new health developments self-care is really important.
Are you able to recruit any friends or other family to help you all with the packing and move? That might keep your husband on his best behavior and take some of the stress out of the move for both of you.
Not much time to go into much detail today, in the middle of moving! BPD hubs does not do well with stress and is so rude and disrespectful, and then accuses me of what he is doing. It is crazy-making to say the least. Sometimes I wonder if I might have some BPD as well (as he is always accusing me of being the problem)
This sounds like projection to me... .he his projecting his feelings about himself on to you.
ProjectionProjection is a defense mechanism, operating unconsciously, in which what is emotionally unacceptable in the self is unconsciously rejected and attributed (projected) to others. Projection is denying one's own unpleasant traits, behaviors, or feelings by attributing them, often in an accusing way, to someone else.
Link to more on Projection... .
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=70931.0I think that recognizing projection is helpful so we don't take things as personally.
I also want to say that if you had BPD yourself you would not likely be here seeking support, I think you can put that idea to rest
Before I go, I wanted to point out the box to the right ---> each item is a link to more information just click on anything that resonates.
Panda39