Looking for a Support Group

[JBoo]

I am pretty sure my husband suffers from BPD and am having a hard time finding a local support group. Does anyone have some guidance?He refuses to go to counselling, so i need some advice about how to deal with his behavior. I'm a calm, logical person, and I try to stay that way when he "flips his switch," but it's getting harder because he can be so cruel. Thank you for any insight.

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[mraa90]

Hello friend <3


I understand you are going through a lot, and putting up with a cruel behavior indicats that you are a decent person. From my expeirnce with the girl I have dated for only 2 months is that I was too afraid to tell her that I'm not okay with her giving me the silent treatment for no reason, although I never knew she did it on purpose I thought she was busy. The problem with BPD is that they will act like children and just like you would treat a child, you need to set rules or boundaries. I know that the last thing you want is to push his buttons which might make him leave. I just wanted to tell you that from my expierence sometimes forgiving the abuse will backfire. She left me out of the blue after I became her caretaker and I was okay with it. It's a double edged knife which makes it hard.


My advice is to set rules, or simply leave the area when he switches because I know how it feels. The silent rage that I saw on that inocenct looking girl is the scariest thing I have ever seen.


I hope you find peace and happinese.

[Radcliff]

Dealing with BPD can be difficult, but bpdfamily is an excellent community in which to get support and learn coping tools.  Can you tell us a little bit more about your relationship?  How long have you been married?  Do you have kids?  Can you give us a little more detail on his painful behaviors?

RC