Is it because I was the one who chose to end the marriage?
maybe.
sometimes significant dates affect us powerfully, or they dont. its hard to say what the rhyme or reason is behind when they do, why they do, or dont. i know my exs birthday had me ruminating pretty hard, the whole "do i say or do something, and what, or dont i... .i wonder what shes up to with the new boyfriend" thing. but at the time, the breakup and feelings surrounding it were all very fresh and raw to me. after that, i couldnt even remember when her birthday is
what do you think?