16 or 17 months apart update. I feel liberated.

[Emotions]

I had an extremely difficult time detaching. I really did have to unlearn what I had learned in my 7 plus year relationship with my exgfBPD... .The major thing that shined a light in my soul was the thought that I should give myself the love and attention I had been giving her... .it felt (and feels) good to be loved, even if it has to come from my own self  i recommend when energy is depleted and the mind keeps playing tricks on you, is to focus inward and give yourself the tlc you deserve. I feel liberated and i am sharing this in Hopes that those going through the darkness can remember what the light feels like, and know that in time and separation, you get yourself back which is worth it... .peace love and virtue my BPD family

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Emotions, Glad to hear your BPD r/s is in the rear-view mirror.  Agree, self-love and self-acceptance are key to one's recovery.  Care-taking a pwBPD usually involves ignoring or denying one's own needs.  It's great to hear that you have returned the focus to yourself.

LuckyJim

[Mutt]

Hi Emotions,

I really did have to unlearn what I had learned in my 7 plus year relationship with my exgfBPD.

The r/s was a negative experience and thanks for sharing that the compassion that you display outwardly turn that inwardly for self compassion.