*It is very difficult not to be affected by their dramas.
*If I could just see it for what it is; her feeling anxious, abandoned, unloved and lashing out at me, and not take it to heart, maybe I'd not be tortured so much by it.
*I think next time, because I know this will happen again (and again), I will not respond to her emails. In fact, if it gets to the point where Validation is not working, I will tell her I am going offline until... .
*What I will try and do instead, is focus on something else. Something for me.
*I have some control over this. I can adjust how I behave in relationship to her. You know how tricky this is.
*There are hundreds of 'caretakers' here on this forum and we are all struggling from time to time.
*Today I am feeling hopeful this might be a turning point where things slowly get better.
*Steady as she goes, .hey?... .But yeah, no more of the unproductive email tennis.
Hello 2020,
I was thinking about you this morning, so I figured I come over from "conflicted", and look you up... .see how you are doing.
Sounds like you are making your way along, .me too!... ."steady as she goes"!
Seems when I get to the end of my endurance (rope), I am starting to become more and more adept at getting a “second wind”; ie’ I’m getting better at “self-care”… “self-soothing”, like going fishing with my Son, or working on other things around the house…
I too can now effectively “disconnect” when things go too far, and get too hot so to speak.
As time passes, I am seeing progress within myself, that I do not take my uBPDw’s tantrums, and negative behaviors so “at heart” any longer, and it has taken a very long time to get to this “place”… years in fact.
Anyways 2020, just wanted to stop by, say hello, and wish you “safe travels”…
Yes Sir!… “steady as she goes”!
Come on over to "conflicted" sometime and say hello!
Best Regards, Red5
