Supertrouper
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
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« Reply #30 on: December 28, 2018, 07:07:20 AM » |
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Hi, ive had a look at SET, and i can see how it would work, just not my usual way of conversing, so will take a bit of practice.
I try not to JADE, as i can see with him, it gets me nowhere. If i do need to do it, i say it once what i need to, and thats it. He usually then tries to argue or throw it back at me, but i then dont respond. It gives me some sense of giving my opinion. He makes his own mind up then why i dont respond, usually incorrectly, but there is no more response from me. He then just gets on with what he is doing. It is hard, and sometimes, but only sometimes i slip and go full on jade, as i would with non BPD persons, if we were discussing things, but i know that doesnt work with my partner. The problem i have is that if i cant have my say, then i have a tendency not to say anything, because i think, what is the point. I do believe this annoys him though, because he does goad me to JADE, and when he doesnt get a response, he gets a bit frustrated and louder and tries even harder. I do want my say but saying it properly so he gets it, is gonna take time and practice.
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