Hi Leftoutmother and welcome to BPD Family!

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter (DD) rejected your offer to help, I bet that was hard to take. We are mothers, we want to help our children, it's natural.
Please share more of your story as you are comfortable. We are here to help you navigate these troubled waters. There is no judgment here, and an immense amount of support and education.
I look forward to hearing more from you, Leftoutmother.
~ OH