PLEASE HELP DD17 refusing php now that we’ve discharged her from rtc

[Mjobpd]

It’s as if she’s worse than when we took her 4 weeks ago. I’m not doing this and I’m not doing that. Any boundaries are seen as threats. I have no idea what to do.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

I'm so sorry to hear that your D is refusing PHP, mjoBPD. How frustrating!

Has she given a reason for refusing?

~ OH

[wendydarling]

Hi MjoBPD

I too am sorry to hear this. Like OH says what reason is she giving. Do you think she maybe overwhelmed?

WDx

[Mjobpd]

She’s not fully resisting, just agitated and back to wanting to do things her way (in all of her 17 yo wisdom). I think the first trigger was getting her phone back with zero texts from anyone to check on her. Realizing the destruction that’s been created by her own actions, yet still unable to recognize that. She is staying with my 2 sil’s families in Chicago so she can continue php adolescent. She feels like we’re dropping her here because we don’t want her home. While I definitely believe she’ll have a better chance of success away from our small community but truth is there are absolutely no adolescent php in a 100 mile radius. She’s feeling alone and sad which comes out sideways as desperate and angry.