Wife with undiagnosed BPD

[Krinkle22]

I'm just finding out about BPD. I firmly believe my wife has this. Home life has become hellish. What do i do?

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[Steps31]

Welcome

Reading all you can will help you see her actions and motivations from a different angle. This site has plenty of great tools.
It's not recommended to come out and tell her that you think she has BPD.
Act in a way that is respectful of both you and her... keep boundaries that provide you a healthy sense of self. Even seeing a therapist for yourself... it definitely has helped me.
If you can give specific situations, people on here can help you navigate through them.

Cheers

[Ozzie101]

Krinkle22, I'd like to join Steps31 in saying welcome to the BPD Family!

This is a supportive site full of people who have a lot of experience and wisdom to share. There are also a lot of tools and techniques that can help make your life and relationship better.

You say your home life has become hellish. Could you explain a bit more about what the major conflicts are? If we have details about how your interactions go and what some of the issues are, we can better help steer you in the right direction.