As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens.

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I have another question:
I have noticed a tendency she seems to have... As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens.

I don't know if it's coincidence or what. Is this something that happens with pwBPD?

[Loving a BP]

I have another question:
I have noticed a tendency she seems to have... As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens.

I don't know if it's coincidence or what. Is this something that happens with pwBPD?

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As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens.

can you give some examples?

[Chosen]

It can be a manipulation thing, subconscious probably.  I find that my uBPDh does it too, I guess to "punish" me for making him feel whatever he is feeling.

[lostinlies]

I have noticed the same thing with my SO. It goes in cycles, right now she is in a mood with sarcasm, blaming and projecting. When she is like that, she will do things that she knows hurts me.

The last week I have been trying to cope with the help of radical acceptance. It have helped a bit in understanding and to let her own her actions, I can only choose how to react on them. But it hurts - a lot. But I don’t get angry and I can let it go much easier.