No Contact -- Day 1 (Determined to make it stick this time)

[VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?"]

We ended things yesterday. He was, of course, pretty upset. He blocked me on social media (I was going to block him but he beat me to it). I haven't blocked him on my phone yet, but I will if he texts or calls. I don't know how to block in my email.  I still have my old AOL account. Not sure if there's anything I can do other than have it go to spam folder -- but I have to check that occasionally since I'm job hunting.
I'm relieved but feel really exhausted.  Guess it's just all part of the process. Maybe I should go ahead and block him on my phone.  I feel like I should text him and let him know and explain that it's just for the best.  Is an explanation necessary?  Maybe not. I don't know.

[WindofChange]

We ended things yesterday. He was, of course, pretty upset. He blocked me on social media (I was going to block him but he beat me to it). I haven't blocked him on my phone yet, but I will if he texts or calls. I don't know how to block in my email.  I still have my old AOL account. Not sure if there's anything I can do other than have it go to spam folder -- but I have to check that occasionally since I'm job hunting.
I'm relieved but feel really exhausted.  Guess it's just all part of the process. Maybe I should go ahead and block him on my phone.  I feel like I should text him and let him know and explain that it's just for the best.  Is an explanation necessary?  Maybe not. I don't know.

[WindofChange]

A good Pinterest quote on detachment:

"Detachment doesn't mean not caring. It's taking care of yourself first and letting others take responsibility for their actions without trying to save or punish them."
 
Working on not feeling compelled to jump in and "save" an adult who got themselves in a predicament through their own actions. 

[Beneck]

Hey Wind of Change! How is it going?

[once removed]

I feel like I should text him and let him know and explain that it's just for the best.  Is an explanation necessary? 

when you ended things, what happened? what was said? anything about space or not speaking?

[Lucky Jim]

I feel like I should text him and let him know and explain that it's just for the best.  Is an explanation necessary?  Maybe not. I don't know.

Hey WofC, In my view, no explanation is necessary.  Do what's best for you!  I find it normal to require distance after parting ways with someone.  It's painful, I know, but leads to greater happiness, so hang in there.  Suggest you be kind to yourself.

LJ

[WindofChange]

Hi, Once removed and Lucky Jim. Sunday is when it happened.  Basically, he sensed me pulling away and called me on it.  I didn't go see him that day because I wasn't feeling well (I really wasn't).  He didn't accept that explanation and was upset because it was his birthday.  He kept texting me and saying if I wanted to see him I would have.  He asked me if I wanted to end things and I told him that I did.  I told him I knew I didn't give him what he needed and that I was sorry we had gone back and forth so much.  I had just been unable to say goodbye.  His response was, well happy effing birthday to me.  Then I messaged his friend about making sure he was taking his medicine, and he texted something about the fact that I had a lot of nerve contacting his friend about him.  My response was, so what? And that was the end of the communication.  Then later that evening I noticed he had blocked me on social media.  So...maybe I just don't attempt to contact him.  I think if he contacts me anymore, then I'll just politely tell him it's best that we don't communicate at all. Thanks for your responses.    I know this is the right step to take in ending things.  I feel differently now than I have in the past.  I know it's for the best, and I feel my eyes have been opened to things I didn't want to see before.  I also have totally reached my limit and I'm just ready to move on.