Hi...it’s been awhile

[Micky]

Hi,
I had an account here a few years ago. I cannot remember my username and password so I have had to re-register.

So...I came on due to a disastrous marriage. My husband was diagnosed BPD in 2015 and in 2016 started a 2.5 years of intensive therapy  for this. I don’t need to list the things he did or said. I. Sure most of you can imagine. Things were so bad. He was addicted to morphine prescribed for a bad back. I mean I was thinking of divorcing him. I came here to get help but would always feel so emotional seeing all the issues others were having in their lives and I wondered how anything could end up being positive for us. It was a real bad time and I don’t know how I got through it... it turned me into a burned out uncompassionate person... I was a shadow of myself.

So here is what has happened in the last 2 years.  I got some professional counselling via my GP... ended up doing 9 months of weekly counselling. My husband just completed his therapy 8 weeks ago and i am hugely proud of what he has achieved. We have not had any drama in our household for 1.5 years. Our communication is better than ever. He can be tested in 5 years for BPD and then have it taken off his medical records. He has also been asked to be a part of the programme where he can mentor others going through the same therapy.
We had a huge upset 8 weeks ago when I had a miscarriage and my main concern was how he would react... but I needn’t have as he was my tower of strength and never left my side. A lot of his anger issues are gone. I haven’t heard him raise his voice in a good 2 years.
So I just wanted to drop by and update. I think about this place often and when I first came here I was so angry and wasn’t in the right place to receive suggestions. So I’m sorry for just leaving. But this was the start of my journey and I just wanted to acknowledge that. Xx 

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[No-One]

 
Congrats!  That's wonderful news!

Did your husband have therapy only, or did he receive some antidepressants or other psychotropic drugs?

[Butane]

Your post made me tear up. In a good way. Happy for you!

[SunandMoon]

Thank you for coming back and sharing your success with us Mickey. That's wonderful news - congratulations! 

I'm sorry about your miscarriage. That must have been hard... but lovely that you had your partner to lean on 

Good luck - wishing you many more years of growth and love!
SaM x

[Red5]

… thank you for sharing this with all of us Micky! 

Blessings and Peace to you and your Husband,

Kind Regards, Red5