Hello and Welcome to the boards,
Mom-of-Four! 
I would agree with the reviewer that WOE is not a good read for someone with BPD. The book has been very helpful to many members here, however; I'm glad you were able to find it at your library
As another resource for book reviews, our
Community Built Knowledge Base includes a list of books that have been reviewed and discussed by members here:
Library: Book Club, previews and discussions. Mom, does one of your four children suffer from BPD?
~ OH