Life with a person w BPD is relentlessly exhausting

[Borderlined]

 Not looking for advice, just looking to yap at those who can understand . I panic when I'm between jobs because it means being home w my wife. I can predict with a 100% of success that I will offend her no matter how hard I try not to. Life is miserable and how hard I try I don't understand how the professionals she sees can't pick up on her malfunction.
I feel better since finding this board that I'm not the only person ever to experience this mental illness that was created by Satan himself

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[zachira]

Yes, life with a person with BPD is relentlessly exhausting. People with BPD need to blame others for their unhappy moods. You never know when the gut punch is coming. I have lived in the world of BPD blame most of my life having a mother and siblings with BPD. I have also had some relationships with men that likely had BPD. Right now you want to feel understood and do not want any advice. Can you tell us more about yourself? Can you tell us some of the things that you and others like about you, that you wish your wife would appreciate about you?