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« on: July 05, 2019, 05:10:56 PM »
My son who was all set to go to rehab left the airport. I am so done.
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« Reply #1 on: July 05, 2019, 06:25:45 PM »
I am sorry Faith.   

He got pretty damn close. 
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« Reply #2 on: July 05, 2019, 06:47:59 PM »
Not close enough. I am done. I have lost all hope
 
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« Reply #3 on: July 05, 2019, 06:51:03 PM »
I hear you.   
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« Reply #4 on: July 05, 2019, 09:41:45 PM »
 I hear how much this hurts.  

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« Reply #5 on: July 05, 2019, 11:35:38 PM »
He is dead to me.
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« Reply #6 on: July 06, 2019, 02:19:55 AM »
Faith,

I'm so sorry!

Sending prayers & hugs.

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« Reply #7 on: July 06, 2019, 07:40:41 AM »
Hi FaithHopeLove

I am very sorry to hear this. You finally were feeling some hope again and then this happens.

Unfortunately the behavior he exhibited here isn't that uncommon in people struggling with addiction. There might still be hope for him. Have you perhaps talked to the hospital staff or the people from the rehab facility about your son leaving the airport?

Where is your son now? Have you and/or your husband talked to him?

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« Reply #8 on: July 06, 2019, 08:06:19 AM »
We talked to hospital staff. They are of no help
 Right now our son is in his apartment getting high
 There is no point in talking to him now.
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« Reply #9 on: July 06, 2019, 08:54:37 AM »
Very unfortunate indeed that he is again using drugs. How were you able to confirm that? Did your husband see your son at his apartment?

Perhaps directly reaching out to the rehab facility might be an option. Maybe they have some ideas for possible next steps. Have you had any direct contact with the rehab facility?
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« Reply #10 on: July 06, 2019, 09:14:12 AM »
My husband went to his apartment and saw the drugs.
The rehab facility called and said to try to talk our son into flying out today so my husband is trying that.
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« Reply #11 on: July 06, 2019, 09:58:04 AM »
Quote from: FaithHopeLove on July 05, 2019, 06:47:59 PM
Not close enough. I am done. I have lost all hope
 

I am so sad for you, I have thought of you and him so many times over the last few days, checking in here to hear your updates...then this.

Oh Faith, sending you love from my little corner of the planet. I will be praying for you.
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« Reply #12 on: July 06, 2019, 04:00:46 PM »
Ohh Faith, how sad this is.

You have to let go..as much as you love him you can't help him. When he left that airport he made a decision.

Is there a therapist who can help you through this time?
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« Reply #13 on: July 06, 2019, 07:14:57 PM »
I was seeing a therapist but she wasn't exactly the right fit long term
 I will ne out of the country for a few months
 After that I will be looking for a spiritual coach
 
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« Reply #14 on: July 07, 2019, 04:47:58 AM »
Faith    I'm so very sorry, I hear your devastation. I'm holding you close. WDx
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« Reply #15 on: July 08, 2019, 01:24:27 PM »
Oh Faith I am terribly sorry.  I am just reading through messages and found this .
I feel your heartbreak.  My son was all about going to rehab after being released from hospital . Instead he spent $40 at the liquor store one day after being released .  Eventually he got kicked out of his cousin's as the deal was go to rehab and he will have shelter and food at the cousins. 
I am so sorry.  I have no words right now, but know that we/ I am there with you during this heart wrenching disappointment. 
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