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« on: July 11, 2019, 09:04:08 PM »

Our couple's therapist released my husband from her care for being confrontational with her.  This happened  about 4 months ago.  I'm still seeing her and we also see her for family therapy.  He still gets very emotional about her releasing him and brings it up at least once a week.

He said he doesn't want to continue seeing her because he believes she owes him an apology.  But within the same vent he'll say she's the only 1 he wants to see.  He gets very emotional when he talks about her.  With tears in his eyes, he'll say things like "What did I do wrong?  Why does she care more for you and our son than for me?"

I'm having trouble understanding exactly what it is that he wants.  He doesn't want to see her unless she apologizes.  He doesn't want to just find another therapist.  He gets emotional when he talks about her.  I'm so confused.  I have no clue what he wants.  If he thinks this particular therapist is "playing games" with him and cares more for me and our son than for him, why does he insist on seeing her and her only?

What should I say or do when he brings her up? 
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« Reply #1 on: July 15, 2019, 10:39:14 PM »

it sounds like he feels rejected by the therapist.

does that sound right?
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