No Contact - MIL SIL

[Rainyday1490]

My wife decided she needed to go no contact with her bpd mother and sister after a lifetime of emotional abuse and many large hurtful Interactions  this past week. My wife had to block her sister after a major blow up from her two days ago, and her sister started texting me today saying she was going to call the cops if my wife didn’t call her. My wife decided to send her no contact email right after these threats, moments after that my SIL called me over a dozen times, and continued texting me saying it was my fault and how horrible I was and saying I would never see our nieces again... and the list goes on. I couldn’t get her blocked soon enough, she even posted horrid things on my business Facebook page and I had to ban her. I already blocked my MIL so she can’t get any words in. I cant believe how hurtful BPD can make someone. My wife and I are sitting here emotionless. Can we actually stop walking on eggshells now? I didn’t realize how mich i was  holding my breath every time the in laws called or we saw them.

[Harri]

Hi Rainyday and welcome.  I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties you and your wife have been through with her mom and sister.  

You are not alone.  I know that is not much comfort though.  We do understand a lot of what you are going through though and you have landed in a great spot to get support and some feedback on what has and has not worked for others who have been through this before or are going through it now.

You asked:

Can we actually stop walking on eggshells now?

Yes, you can.  We have tools and strategies that can help you both cope better regardless of whether you continue a relationship with your MIL or SIL.

Have you had a change to read some of the articles we have here?  The articles that people find most immediately helpful are listed here:
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Pull up a chair and read and please feel free to jump into other threads and interact.  We all work together to support each other and give feedback.  Most of the learning I have done is through interacting with others here.  

Hope to see you more often on the board

Again,