Grieving

[Depression = 72% of members]

I recently found out my husband of 20 years has BPD. He doesn’t know yet of his diagnosis. He keeps asking me for a divorce, but then says he doesn’t really want one. That it’s just a cry for help. I feel so sad and confused. I’m really grieving the loss of who I thought he was. And so unsure of our future together.

[Skigirl71]

I recently found out my husband of 20 years has BPD. He doesn’t know yet of his diagnosis. He keeps asking me for a divorce, but then says he doesn’t really want one. That it’s just a cry for help. I feel so sad and confused. I’m really grieving the loss of who I thought he was. And so unsure of our future together.

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[Harri]

Hi and welcome.

I am glad you found us and are reaching out for support.

As you settle in and read and post more, I hope you share more about your stories.  In the meantime, know you are not alone and are with people who understand.  some of us are going through what you are right now and others have been there.  We all work together to support and welcome each other.

Again,