Natasha Tomicic - stop this forum spammer

[BPDFamily]

The following information was assembled in an investigation of a series of 132 harassing posts on  bpdfamily that occurred in November of 2019. This was not a hacker ( bpdfamily is well shielded from hacking), but rather an individual using 36 different memberships to make hurtful and disruptive posts.

The individual, Natasha Schliephorst Tomicic, a Canadian living in Taiwan, participated earnestly as a member of  bpdfamily from 2008 - 2015 seeking help to deal with marital difficulties, alcohol abuse, domestic violence, and anger management. She was a bit of a disruptive member back then, but she was working in earnest and we supported her and she was openly appreciative of that support. She has not be respectful of the community rule, however, and has opened 70 accounts despite our requested that she just work from one membership.

Natasha Tomicic has self-identified as being on the sociopath spectrum. She divorced in the 2014-15 time frame and participated on a number of messageboards communities for people on the sociopath spectrum. At those sites she developed relationships beyond the scope of just messagboard participation that ended in interpersonal disputes and escalated to mean spirited Internet fights that spanned a number of Internet communities, some very obscure (e.g., google for more information ), and included off-Internet fighting. We learned all this from names and links posted on  bpdfamily by Natasha (people she is fighting with), from unsolicited e-mail contacts this week from people who are fighting with her, and from work done by a private investigator.

None of this happened at  bpdfamily or with  bpdfamily members, but somehow a small bit if the infighting spilled over to include our site. Most of her posts have vulgar and personal insults of the members here and on other sites.

Not knowing the backstory, we initially allowed Natasha Tomicic[/url] to be heard (let her antagonistic posts stand for a week) and we offered her a path to being a regular member. Natasha Tomicic was clear that she was not interested in participating as a regular member.

We then consolidated and relocated her antagonistic posts where they could be read, but were not hurtful or disruptive to members. When the attacks continued, and as we started becoming aware of the backstory, we started removing the disruptive posts and closing her many "alias" memberships. Eventually we started banning the servers she was posting from and used other electronic measures to limit the interruptions.

It is unfortunate that this type of fighting happens on the Internet and its hard to tell who is the persecutor and who is the victim. Our sympathies go out to all involved.

As long as we leave our front doors open for the wounded and hurting, people like this have a way in. We do our best to minimize it without getting emotionally engaged.

If anyone has a specific question, please PM us and we'll get you an answer.  We will share that  bpdfamily was started by a faith charity and this support group has significant professional oversight above the level of the active moderators. Part of that oversight is from benefactors. Part of it is from independent external oversight from a watchdog group associated with the UN. Part is from clinical  consultants. We have been under their umbrella for over a decade. It's an integral part of our culture.

Thanks to the members who have been spotting and reporting disruptive posts (via the report to moderator button), rather than engaging/disrupting meaningful member discussions.



Natasha Tomicic member and her 50 "alias'" history:

Username DragoN DragoN DragoN - - - - - Satis Marek Sabratha Incense H20 Mayet MeganK - MeganK - MeganK - - - - - - - Feuer DataInference Sweetgirl13 justonemore Saucygirl13 Fool42 MadJoePF Anonymousie fancythat SoItIs Eight 99bottlesofbeer 98bottlesofbeer bpdpscam DragoNban DragoNban2 OccamsRazor OccamsRazors CollusionCentral Elle8 Curiouser1 BattleStations Plucky1980 EllaBlack PsyTranslator B2Spirit SkyLark1029 AngelofMercy TarrednFeathered Singingintherain CommonDecency uncommondecency Unprecedented WaterLilly TrulyAbsurd Sparkler Harriette NotSoAnonymous NotAnonymous Peaceflowers WhisperingShells NC Teacher FluffyHedgehog

Time Nov-Dec, 2008 2009 Jan-Jul, 2010 - 2011 - 2012 - Mar, 2013 Oct, 2013 Oct, 2013 Oct, 2013 Oct - Nov 2013 Nov, 2013 Dec, 2013 - Jan - Jul, 2014 - Apr, 2015 - 2016 - 2017 - 2018 - Jun, 2019 Jul, 2019 Jul, 2019 Jul, 2019 Sep, 2019 Sep, 2019 Sep, 2019 Oct, 2019 Oct, 2019 Oct, 2019 Oct, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019 Nov, 2019

Posts 237 2577 1708 - - - - - 77 75 124 54 101 29 87 - 165 - 5 - - - - - - - 34 3 3 5 3 27 3 25 2 2 2 22 2 2 6 4 3 2 2 0 2 10 1 4 5 1 4 2 2 1 1 4 3 3 4 1 3 5 9 3 1 10 10 -------------

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