Thoughts and prayers

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I was wondering if I could ask for some support and prayers for a  former friend of mine with BPD that seemo be going through a difficult time .I guess that’s all I can do at this point as I am split black probably for good but my heart truly does break for their pain
 

[Timberwolf]

I was wondering if I could ask for some support and prayers for a  former friend of mine with BPD that seemo be going through a difficult time .I guess that’s all I can do at this point as I am split black probably for good but my heart truly does break for their pain
 

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Timberwolf, I'm sorry to hear that you are in pain.  Would it be fair to say that you still feel the urge to support someone (your former friend) who is not interested in receiving your support?  If so, it seems like a thankless vigil.  What keeps you hangin' on, as the song says?

LuckyJim

[Timberwolf]

That’s a very good question. I guess codependency loneliness and honestly a genuine miss of the person. That doesn’t really matter though. The bottom line is it’s not needed or wanted and I need to stop embarrassing myself .

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Timberwolf, I think you are wise to acknowledge your feelings, yet that doesn't mean you should act on them if your former friend is unreceptive to your support.  I suggest you sit with your feelings, without the need to take any action.  You are already worthy, just the way you are.

LJ

[Timberwolf]

Lucky Jim: That sounds like sound  advice. It was my fault though for perusing social media; def feeling some loss and pain today but i know it will pass. 

[Lucky Jim]

That’s a very good question. I guess codependency loneliness and honestly a genuine miss of the person. That doesn’t really matter though. The bottom line is it’s not needed or wanted and I need to stop embarrassing myself .

Hey TW, I wonder whether the reason you find it difficult to let go runs deeper.  Hint: usually it has something to do with one's FOO or other trauma from the past.  Does that ring a bell?  If so, it might be worth exploring.

LJ

[Timberwolf]

Quite possibly. I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that nothing was real.