No contact - I am at the end of my rope

[Lucy2020]

Hi I am new to this.  I am a 49 year old daughter of a PBD mother.  I am at the end of my rope and looking for help.  I do see a therapist now for this.  Thanks

[Panda39]

Hi Lucy2020,

Welcome to the group    

Are you currently no contact (NC) or considering it?  What has led up NC or considering NC?  Can you tell us a little bit more of your story?

Glad to hear you're seeing a Therapist that support is a great thing to have.

Hang in there    Glad you found us I have found this site really helpful.

Panda39

[Methuen]

Hi Lucy2020

Welcome to our BPDfamily.  We don't share DNA here, but we share the experience of having a BPD family member.  For me, it's an important family to have, and I'm super grateful to have found this site.

I am 57, an only child, and live in the same town as my uBPD mom, who lives independently (with a whole lot of help from myself and H that she expects and doesn't appreciate).

I have had a few short periods of NC (when I needed time to feel emotionally safe again), and more recently, more periods of LC (for the same reason).  My mom is 83 and is physically frail, mostly through her own bad decision making throughout her life.

No one in my community knows she is BPD, and she has many social friends who have known her to be fun and charismatic.  To me, she has had periods of being a good mother, and periods of being very much not a good mother.  

I found this site last July when I was at the end of my rope.  It can get better.

I'm glad you found our site.  Again, welcome