Hi and welcome! I am glad you found us and posted. You are not alone and we can help support you. We have many members who are in a similar situation and are working their way through it, learning better ways to communicate and cope. Things can get better for you.
How do I keep from focusing and worrying about her destructive tendencies with our daughter while I work on building me so that I can be strong enough to enforce boundaries and continue with therapy?
Can you give us some specific details? It will help us get a better feel for what you are dealing with. How do you currently respond when you are triggered? What areas do you think you need to work on to get stronger?
