Guidance needed Please re: Conflict resolution

So my person and I recently started talking again. She called me As a missed call and I called her back and we have been talking and video chatting every day since. This person was my best friend prior to her fallout six months ago; I love her to death she truly was the sister that I never had. Words cannot even express how happy I was to have her back in my life. The past day or two however I feel like I’ve started to become devalued and I don’t know how to handle this. During the six months that we were broken up, My privacy has been invaded. I know that she has been through my email Facebook accounts and several other places. She has admitted to such and I for gave it, where I’m having a problem is how she now refers to me as being creepy for things like looking at what’s on her public Facebook page… And also since she recently friended me on Facebook commenting on how an old best friend she had connected with recently how pretty she was. This is after in order to make things up to her I went out of my way with a very expensive gift. Now I am being referred to as creepy and she could not so much as send me something in the mail that would cost less than $20. II love this person to death and even think about how I would love at some point to be able to like spend a weekend and see her again (it’s an ld friendship). After multiple instances of been referred to as creepy, however and particularly given how I have forgiven the creepiness of their actions this has given me pause.

Please may I have some guidance on how to handle this constructively. I don’t want to make her more defensive or back sway again out of hurt (Nor cause her to do the same).



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