Diddle
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 74
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« on: February 08, 2020, 10:51:14 AM » |
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Hey, So this is my first post, I want to start I'm at the start of the this journey, but obviously if I've got to the point where I believe my OH has BPD then I'm a long way in. We have been together for 19 years, have 3 children. I have searched online many times, for possible answers to the way OH (sorry I don't know the abbreviations yet) behaves. ruled some out, ruled some in. So my main question to settle my brain today is: from what I know, OH fits every criteria for aggression, paranoia, sabotaging, jealousy, mood swings etc. but he doesn't do the self sabotaging in a big way? he doesn't spend too much, (he does spend to make himself feel better, and drink and eat, but not in a extreme way) isn't promiscuous (as far as I Know) doesn't self harm. so does anyone else has partners like this, where their focus is more emotional, and the need for reassurance to the extreme, but not physically self damaging to him?
thanks for trawling through my waffle, this is a crazy maze of thoughts and emotions and analysis at the moment, I am so torn between how to feel about this.
many thanks Diddle
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