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Hello. My friend directed me here because he was in a marriage with a BPD spouse and after sharing with him what was going on with my husband he knew I was dealing with the same thing. I started learning about BPD about a year ago. It just keeps getting worse and for the first time last week I actually  considered the possibility of not continuing to be together. This goes against everything I think I should feel. I love him dearly and care about him and want him to seek help and get better but the verbal abuse is getting so bad and I can’t even talk to him so I am having difficulty seeing how this is going to improve. How can you work on working things out when you aren’t able to even have a normal conversation about the issues?

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Hello. My friend directed me here because he was in a marriage with a BPD spouse and after sharing with him what was going on with my husband he knew I was dealing with the same thing. I started learning about BPD about a year ago. It just keeps getting worse and for the first time last week I actually  considered the possibility of not continuing to be together. This goes against everything I think I should feel. I love him dearly and care about him and want him to seek help and get better but the verbal abuse is getting so bad and I can’t even talk to him so I am having difficulty seeing how this is going to improve. How can you work on working things out when you aren’t able to even have a normal conversation about the issues?

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hi Apostle, and

the good news is that there is hope. i have seen, in my time here, some of the worst cases turned around.

but it takes a lot of work and commitment on our end to fundamentally changing the dynamics of the relationship to a healthier trajectory.

tell us more. what sort of verbal abuse are you going through? tell us about the most recent disagreement between the two of you.