Ghosting and BPD?

[Depression = 72% of members]

"Ghosting" seems to be the new emotional abuse / neglect behavior of the modern age.  It's deeply normalized today.  Don't want to disagree with someone?  Just disappear from their life, forever.  No explanation.

"Ghosting" hurts a lot, and, imo, is the result of immature conflict-avoidant personalities.  HOWEVER, I do believe it is 100% justified if you are escaping an abusive relationship (such as BPD).

My Q is this though:  Does "ghosting" hurt us survivors a little more?  I find that it really zings me, more than most things.  I was raised by a BPD and wonder what effect that still has on me (10 wonderful years of NC!) still.

Here's a fun little image:

[Greg]

"Ghosting" seems to be the new emotional abuse / neglect behavior of the modern age.  It's deeply normalized today.  Don't want to disagree with someone?  Just disappear from their life, forever.  No explanation.

"Ghosting" hurts a lot, and, imo, is the result of immature conflict-avoidant personalities.  HOWEVER, I do believe it is 100% justified if you are escaping an abusive relationship (such as BPD).

My Q is this though:  Does "ghosting" hurt us survivors a little more?  I find that it really zings me, more than most things.  I was raised by a BPD and wonder what effect that still has on me (10 wonderful years of NC!) still.

Here's a fun little image:

[shield-me]

Hi Greg, you are totally right about the ghosting. It's awful modern behaviour. It hurts especially being raised by someone who does that to you. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I totally sympathize about your situation. Do you have anyone else like other family or friends who understand your situation? Or a support group?

HOWEVER, I do believe it is 100% justified if you are escaping an abusive relationship (such as BPD).

Yes, 100% true. I had to do this for my own sanity.

[Greg]

Thanks for the reply.  Don't really have anyone, so it's good to be here. 

[madeline7]

I am of the feeling that just about everything hurts me more as a survivor. I was a very happy go lucky child, but now have become hypervigilant as an adult after years of being manipulated by a BPDm and enabler dad, and your post validates this for me. Ghosting, being excluded, are particularly hurtful.