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[freckled violet]

Hello,  
I'm new here. I am not new to bpd. I've been married to my bpd 40 years and still learning. I've gone to counseling, worked a 12 step for co-dependency, and struggled along with stubborn commitment the best I can. I'm grateful for many tender mercies and support that has got me this far. I am hoping to zero in on support that will help me better develop the skills taught in  Randy's book from people who are doing the same. I'm weary. I want to get free from the victim blame game and find ways to love in healthier ways.

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[once removed]

hi freckled violet, and

youre on the right track 

youve read a solid book, and youve found a support group that can change your life. you recognize youve given this your best shot, but youre open to other ways. that part is really critical!

tell us more about whats going on between you and your spouse right now, and where you could use help.