It is painful watching her go through such horrible irrational behavior.

[Olivia J]

I reached the end of my rope with my 23 year old daughter. I started reading ‘Stop walking on eggshells’ and feel like borderline personality disorder may be the correct   diagnosis. She has been like a jekyl and Hyde for years and it has gotten worse in past 3 years; I have been the target of her wrath since I divorced her dad. She has been on anti anxiety medication for years which has helped but it’s not enough. Her sister read about borderline personality disorder a number of years ago and sent it to me. I didn’t want to believe it to be true. It’s deeply painful watching her go through such horrible irrational behavior. And then she feels ashamed. I can’t be the recipient of it any longer. I hope this book and message board gives me better tools for coping and helping her. Thank you

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome! You are among kindred spirits.  Please read through the forum here and read through the stories as they cover the whole realm of what BPD can look like.
Please write back to us as you are able...we are here for you.

[Huat]

Hello Olivia J.

I join Swimmy55, another long-time member, in welcoming you here.

I can't tell you the number of times I have "reached the end of my rope" with my daughter.  She first ran away when she was 12 and she is now 54.  Long, long history of living with her "Jekyl/Hyde" personality.  When she has been "good" she has been very, very "good"...but when she has been bad...she has been horrible!

"Stop Walking on Eggshells" was my second read.  My first was "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me." (I cried all the way through this one!)  What eye-openers!

As a Mom I tried so hard over the years to be forgiving.  So she said all those terrible things...so she did all those terrible things.  Take the high road, I would say to myself.  Yes, sometimes apologies...sometimes not...just a "let's just move on"...until the next time...and the next time...and...

I so urge you, Olivia J, to start working on yourself now.  I say "yourself" because you are the only one who you can control...the only one you can have make changes. 

You have come to a very caring community of like-parents...parents who are struggling to have meaningful relationships with their troubled children.

Take full advantage of all that is offered on this website...information galore with links to more.  On top of that, you will find that others are walking in similar shoes.  You share what happens with you...what works for you...what doesn't...and others do the same.  There is strength in numbers and strength is what you need to go forward to better days.

Hope you keep sharing, Olivia J.

Huat