Confused/ scared

[Shakthi]

I have known/ lived/ married to my high functioning BPD husband for over 20 years now. 7 years ago a year after our first child was born we had a suicide/ self harm incident. We both tried therapy, I learned about BPD. We tried couples therapy, it did not last or work. He dropped his therapy, kept the meds for some time, is alcoholic, everything BPD descibes. I coped with therapy and managed life for a bit. We mived states and things got worse and better.anyways I got lax, we moved again and things were even better for a while and  then last weekend everything crashed. He got too drunk and tried to hurt me. I called the cops and things got too complicated. The roller coaster has always been part of my life. I want to leave, he wants to make it work. Two kids, two puppies and a mostly broken me. I have family who knows about this. His family wont really help (denial?) not sure. I am respected at work and have friends who know bits and can get support. How do i handle him? Manage my everyday life? I am overhelmed , confused. Scared

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[Rev]

Hi and welcome.

This is not really my area of expertise or personal experience. So I'm going to let others weigh in .


In the meantime - have you heard of this resource?

https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=stop+walking+on+eggshells+youtube&&view=detail&mid=AEC27955A39F1E695CAEAEC27955A39F1E695CAE&&FORM=VRDGAR&ru=%2Fvideos%2Fsearch%3Fq%3Dstop%2Bwalking%2Bon%2Beggshells%2Byoutube%26FORM%3DHDRSC3

It would be a good place to start in general.

Rev.