theres a saying:
"the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"
I want to feel that closeness and intimacy and amazing sexual attraction for someone again. It's just not happening. I feel like I'm broken.
i have always found that the best way to get over someone is to fully grieve them...to acknowledge the loss, to process the loss, to learn to live with the loss.
otherwise, you just carry it on, as baggage, into the next relationship, and the next.
its not the most fun, emotionally easy, or quickest way. but it works.
i can understand why you would feel broken. youre trying to nurse your broken heart by avoiding your grief, and desperately trying to feel something else, when your heart longs for the one that hurt you.
this just reinforces bad feelings about yourself.
I have been going on dates - likely too soon - and I feel nothing for anybody. I took a girl home, and I couldn't get aroused. I wanted to have sex, I just couldn't.
there isnt a proven timeline for when its a good idea to date again. it may be too soon for you, or you may want to rethink your approach. looking for closeness, intimacy, sex, on a first date, is going from 0-100.