Elysek, hi
welcome!
I find your honesty and self-awareness refreshing.
So to validate his responses
Seems beyond difficult with any authenticity.
I am afraid that I will not be able to adopt new behaviors, but am motivated to learn.
Validation was a tough tool for me, too. You already know it has to start with not being invalidating, and validating has to be done with a measure of authenticity or it doesn't work. What would you say is the hardest part about validating?
You say you're motivated to learn. Check out this article and let us know if anything stands out!
https://www.bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-dont-be-invalidating