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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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natalie_1234
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: November 12, 2020, 11:08:05 AM »

hello,

My boyfriend has left me. I suspect he suffered from BPD. I am terribly broken hearted and would like any advice possible.

thank you
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Relationship status: Broken up
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« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2020, 11:52:00 AM »

Natalie,

I am very sorry to hear about your boyfriend leaving you. Please take a little time and share more information about what happened in the relationship when you feel  up to it. In the meantime, take care of yourself and try to do things that make you happy and feel at peace. For me, it was hiking trails out in the woods at a local park, doing activities with my child, or simply taking a drive and getting out of the house.  

I was abruptly left by my uBPD ex-g/f about 7 months ago, so I can identify with how you feel as can most other people here on the forum. We had been in a relationship for almost two years.  She had been pressuring me for marriage for a several months and finally gave me an "either we get engaged now" or I'm out ultimatum. I told her she needed to get help for her severe emotional issues first and that marriage would only further complicate them. She disagreed and left me. About two weeks later she was back with the guy that she was sleeping with right after she separated with her ex-husband. I was devastated for several months and ended up in therapy once per week about a month after the breakup. I'm still seeing the therapist every other week now trying to work on my codependency and issues with PTSD.

Stay strong. There are several great people on this forum that are here to help you.
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« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2020, 12:00:43 PM »

Hey natalie, Welcome!  You have come to a great place.  I'm sorry to hear that you parted ways with your BF.  What makes you think that he suffers from BPD?  Fill us in, when you can.  The first step is generally to return the focus to yourself, by paying attention to yourself and your needs.  Put yourself first for a change.  Be kind to yourself.  It does get better.

LuckyJim

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