And this is called "experiential learning." Sometimes we just don't learn until we live through the experience.
So now you know she will not keep to her promises regarding, oh...anything related to your coming back. That must have been a miserable weekend.
Is there anyone you can take with you to do the work needed at the house? She may not have accepted it is over and is just taking a breather.
All in all, how are you feeling about things.
The fact that you didn't cave after the weekend experience is a huge step!
There is nobody I can take - but I feel safe in going - except it will be uncomfortable. She will probably insist on hugging me for example. I keep telling myself - do anything - just dont agree to come back.
The worst thing is she uses our son - saying its a nightmare for him. He has privately told me not to go back FGS. But I cant say this to her. Im not quite sure what he is saying to her.
I feel good about things - it was at this stage I went back last year - but now we have sold the house - a huge plus. I am going on Friday - will let you know what happens.
She has negotiated a better financial maintenance settlement than I feel entirely comfortable with - but I will wait until after she moves before coming back to this. I can live on 1000 pounds a month INCLUDING rent - she needs this sum and wont have any rent to pay. I think she is doing her best to make it financially tought hoping I will come crawling back.
I dont want to go down the legal route just yet - I will save a lot of money when the house is sold. I have stopped paying the mortgage - she doesnt know this.