hello! i am in the process of reading "stop walking on eggshells" and am looking for support and a safe place to discuss issues.
my current therapist suggested the book and has suggested my bf most likely has BPD. from my research i am certain he does. we have been together for 4 yrs and he has made alot of progress with his anger issues (without actually being dxg) and i know he's capable of much more. i am learning that i have been enabling and encouraging alot of his bad behavior. recently we have a strong friend group who are seeing his behavior towards me and some of them want to address this with him. this initially totally freaked me out because i knew he wouldn't handle it well and i would get all the blame...then i realized that he needs to hear this and they will do it in a supportative way. it's a breathe of fresh air actually having people around us that SEE his behavior and actually want to step in and help. i have alot to learn because i've been doing so many things wrong (for someone with BPD anyway) and want to make this work. i adore him and am hopeful for progress.