Breakup confusion

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Hi,
I am hoping to get some other perspectives.
I was seeing a man for a couple of months. We have know each other for a few years but more in a working environment.
It started out quite nicely, although as I have previously been married to a man who was abusive and narcissistic I was wary of the feeling of love bombing.
Anyway communication had been open and working and my boyfriend had told me he has BPD.
I should of read up more on this and now feel as though I walked blindly into something I didn’t fully comprehend.
Anyway as with all relationships, especially between two people who have suffered abuse. Triggers happens. I got scared and reacted to a message by saying that I didn’t think things were working.
Things escalated from there.
I fell into quite a fragile emotional state to which he told me I was too toxic to be around.
Then a couple of weeks later he agree to meet, we had dinner and he behaved as though we were just friends and didn’t discuss anything about what happened between us. That he hadn’t responded as he was too busy with work but did go bush walking with another woman.
This left me deeply confused, triggered  and led to me being harsh and confrontational.
Since then he has refused to answer texts.
I have tried to give space, apologies and express my feelings but am left deeply hurt, confused and lost.
I finally plucked up the courage today to go over and try to talk to him.
He was not happy and very drunk.
He refused to speak to me and told me he has blocked me,
His flat mate told me he has been drinking during the day and he is not good.
I am distraught. Is there any way  to help him. I love him and don’t want to abandon him further. From everything I have read so far it doesn’t look good but walking away from someone I love who is hurting so badly is foreign to me.
I am a big communicator but realise everything I try to say seems to get distorted.
Please help.
Thank you

[Charlie1978]

Hi,
I am hoping to get some other perspectives.
I was seeing a man for a couple of months. We have know each other for a few years but more in a working environment.
It started out quite nicely, although as I have previously been married to a man who was abusive and narcissistic I was wary of the feeling of love bombing.
Anyway communication had been open and working and my boyfriend had told me he has BPD.
I should of read up more on this and now feel as though I walked blindly into something I didn’t fully comprehend.
Anyway as with all relationships, especially between two people who have suffered abuse. Triggers happens. I got scared and reacted to a message by saying that I didn’t think things were working.
Things escalated from there.
I fell into quite a fragile emotional state to which he told me I was too toxic to be around.
Then a couple of weeks later he agree to meet, we had dinner and he behaved as though we were just friends and didn’t discuss anything about what happened between us. That he hadn’t responded as he was too busy with work but did go bush walking with another woman.
This left me deeply confused, triggered  and led to me being harsh and confrontational.
Since then he has refused to answer texts.
I have tried to give space, apologies and express my feelings but am left deeply hurt, confused and lost.
I finally plucked up the courage today to go over and try to talk to him.
He was not happy and very drunk.
He refused to speak to me and told me he has blocked me,
His flat mate told me he has been drinking during the day and he is not good.
I am distraught. Is there any way  to help him. I love him and don’t want to abandon him further. From everything I have read so far it doesn’t look good but walking away from someone I love who is hurting so badly is foreign to me.
I am a big communicator but realise everything I try to say seems to get distorted.
Please help.
Thank you

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