Just had BPD/NPD diagnosed in my wife. What now?

[Sam_Schmear]

I have been married to my wife for 15 years. Many ups and downs. I recently sought help for a family crisis she has caused. Three therapists have told me she has BPD. Beginning individual therapy. History tells me she will not seek help. What do I need to know now?

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[Cat Familiar]

This article might be helpful: https://bpdfamily.com/content/how-to-get-borderline-into-therapy

It’s often really difficult to get someone with BPD into therapy. Often they think their issues are due to other people, not themselves. And not wanting to look within is a problem for them because typically they have so much internal shame and self loathing.

It’s  good that you’re doing therapy. That, and reading here, will really help make things less volatile in your relationship.