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Limpsx
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« on: December 13, 2020, 07:17:45 PM »



My ex bpd husband cheated and lied and lied on me. He filed fake exparte, hacked phones, geofences my location to say I robed his house, said I stalked and abused him.  We were on a roller coaster ride but thought we would make it
He lied I. Court over and tried to get me arrested.  He was engaged in two weeks.   Did he ever love me

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« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2020, 10:48:58 AM »

Relationships with pwBPD can be so tough because it seems like they can shut the door and walk away so easily. I'd feel the same way you do. The reality is that BPD makes it difficult for him to genuinely connect and relate.

How are you? Do you feel that you're in recovery from this hurtful relationship? You've been through a lot.
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« Reply #2 on: December 15, 2020, 12:06:05 PM »

Relationships with pwBPD can be so tough because it seems like they can shut the door and walk away so easily. I'd feel the same way you do. The reality is that BPD makes it difficult for him to genuinely connect and relate.

Not only can they shut the door and walk away like nothing ever happened, but they also have a tendency to show back up in your life in different ways unexpectedly and unannounced after months of no contact. I've been experiencing this on and off with my uBPD ex for the last two months, and it tends to set you back some. Mind games at it's best.  Frustrated/Unfortunate (click to insert in post) A roller coaster ride is probably the best analogy for a relationship with a BPD.
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« Reply #3 on: December 26, 2020, 03:51:08 PM »

Hi Limpsx  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

Welcome

I am very sorry that you had to go through that. That sounds like a horrible experience. I am glad that you decided to join us. It helps to talk with people that can relate with what you’re going through because they’ve gone through something similar themselves.

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