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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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maregesimpson
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« on: May 23, 2021, 01:20:00 PM »

Hi everybody,
just want to say hello. I am currently treatet with ongoi g silence and feel very helpless. So have been reading your posts with great interest.
Thank you so much for posting und the support.
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« Reply #1 on: May 23, 2021, 11:20:01 PM »

Hi.
I'm new here and am still finding my feet, but I recognise a lot here and perhaps I'm in the right community.
That given...
I dealt best with the silent treatment by imagining I was living alone.
I did the usual as if single and home by myself; read a book, watch a movie, make a sandwich, go for a bike ride.
What doesn't work for me is trying to fix the problem - trying to deal directly with the silence issue just enables fights and further complications here.
My wife's last long silence was for 6 weeks, and was just the latest of a long line of events in years of doing such.
When she broke that silence, I extended it for another month; she didn't do it again barring a single recent event of a day or two.
During that 10 weeks, in my own mind, I was a single guy living happily alone in a stress-free environment.
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