Is my aunt exhibiting BPD behaviours or is it a certain type of narcisissm?

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Hi, so my aunt has been very controlling, possessive, and want to stay connected with us, and when we don't, she starts to get mad and talk bad about us to everyone, brainwash everybody into seeing that we're bad people, she also uses hidden tactics such as triangulation to keep tabs on us, and relay messages, just very manipulative and covert in her behaviours.
One example, she keeps tabs and stalks us by talking to our father, and asking questions about us all the time, then when we don't answer her text messages or do anything that triggers her, usually related to abandonment, she starts painting us as bad, saying we are ungrateful for what she has done for us, and has this constant need that everyone needs to be connected and stay connected, and if you got a mind of your own, act on your own, and not be so easily brainwashed by her, she sees you as a threat and try to climate that threat through character assassinations and such. She also has been obsessed with me, her nephew, ever since I cut contact, she starts to almost fall in love with me, sending me messages and say how handsome I look, and how I look so similar to this particular famous actor. To me, it seems more like a narcissist than borderline.

[borderfine_pd]

Hi, so my aunt has been very controlling, possessive, and want to stay connected with us, and when we don't, she starts to get mad and talk bad about us to everyone, brainwash everybody into seeing that we're bad people, she also uses hidden tactics such as triangulation to keep tabs on us, and relay messages, just very manipulative and covert in her behaviours.
One example, she keeps tabs and stalks us by talking to our father, and asking questions about us all the time, then when we don't answer her text messages or do anything that triggers her, usually related to abandonment, she starts painting us as bad, saying we are ungrateful for what she has done for us, and has this constant need that everyone needs to be connected and stay connected, and if you got a mind of your own, act on your own, and not be so easily brainwashed by her, she sees you as a threat and try to climate that threat through character assassinations and such. She also has been obsessed with me, her nephew, ever since I cut contact, she starts to almost fall in love with me, sending me messages and say how handsome I look, and how I look so similar to this particular famous actor. To me, it seems more like a narcissist than borderline.

[Turkish]

You might want to visit this info thread:

COMPARISON: Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs BPD

Also: https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-borderline-personality-disorder

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