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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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« on: August 20, 2021, 01:31:42 PM »

I was talking to my therapist on Wednesday about my ex and I noticed something I said was different than how I've said it before. Usually I would say "I had to let him go because I was enabling him and he won't change if I stay." Wednesday I said the exact same thing except at the end I added "...and he may never change, but that's out of my control." Y'all...that is HUGE for me. Wow. I've been working so hard on setting boundaries and overcoming my codependency and this is proof that my thought processes are changing. I tend to beat myself up when I backslide, or check his social media, or want to reach out to him, but I never think about all the small wins.
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« Reply #1 on: August 20, 2021, 01:37:58 PM »

I was talking to my therapist on Wednesday about my ex and I noticed something I said was different than how I've said it before. Usually I would say "I had to let him go because I was enabling him and he won't change if I stay." Wednesday I said the exact same thing except at the end I added "...and he may never change, but that's out of my control." Y'all...that is HUGE for me. Wow. I've been working so hard on setting boundaries and overcoming my codependency and this is proof that my thought processes are changing. I tend to beat myself up when I backslide, or check his social media, or want to reach out to him, but I never think about all the small wins.

 Way to go! (click to insert in post) GOOD JOB! Every step in the right direction is worth celebrating!  Way to go! (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: August 20, 2021, 04:46:00 PM »

Congratulations, marv! That's a real milestone. It seems like you're well on your way  Virtual hug (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2021, 09:58:33 AM »

Bravo marv1995  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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