Relationship with possible bdp

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I’ve been in the most amazing almost 4 year relationship with my ex-girlfriend. She’s been by my side through the death of both of my parents and we’ve been so close with mutually wanting a future together and enjoying our healthy relationship. Her and I have had great communication and no recent issues. Out of the blue a few weeks ago she called me to tell me she was unhappy in life and felt that she needed space to figure herself out so we needed to break up. Then she called me and decided she wanted to be together through her journey. It was a back and forth experience with me supporting and loving her through it but then she decided that she had feelings for her coworker because he read her mind about having a bad day. She’s been deciding that she wants no friendship and no contact with me but continues to contact me. She claims that she is happy single and has put more activities on her plate rather than seeking help that she knows she needs. She’s said very hurtful and very untrue things to me but then goes back on it moments later. She’s said things like my parents’ deaths were a burden when she’s been obsessed and loved my family more than her own and spent days with my mother even without me. She has put a negative narrative that our relationship was toxic and she fabricated her feelings in the relationship when that is beyond false. I want to talk to her about seeking help and show her that we had such a healthy relationship where I loved her for her and supported her through her highs and lows. I know the coworker she believes she is into will only break her heart and not put up with her emotions. She also struggles with intrusive thoughts about her sexuality. Her father doesn’t care for gay relationships but eventually began to like me and didn’t care. What should I do?

[Rosecarolina11]

I’ve been in the most amazing almost 4 year relationship with my ex-girlfriend. She’s been by my side through the death of both of my parents and we’ve been so close with mutually wanting a future together and enjoying our healthy relationship. Her and I have had great communication and no recent issues. Out of the blue a few weeks ago she called me to tell me she was unhappy in life and felt that she needed space to figure herself out so we needed to break up. Then she called me and decided she wanted to be together through her journey. It was a back and forth experience with me supporting and loving her through it but then she decided that she had feelings for her coworker because he read her mind about having a bad day. She’s been deciding that she wants no friendship and no contact with me but continues to contact me. She claims that she is happy single and has put more activities on her plate rather than seeking help that she knows she needs. She’s said very hurtful and very untrue things to me but then goes back on it moments later. She’s said things like my parents’ deaths were a burden when she’s been obsessed and loved my family more than her own and spent days with my mother even without me. She has put a negative narrative that our relationship was toxic and she fabricated her feelings in the relationship when that is beyond false. I want to talk to her about seeking help and show her that we had such a healthy relationship where I loved her for her and supported her through her highs and lows. I know the coworker she believes she is into will only break her heart and not put up with her emotions. She also struggles with intrusive thoughts about her sexuality. Her father doesn’t care for gay relationships but eventually began to like me and didn’t care. What should I do?

[Cant breathe]

Hi and welcome. I saw your post here and I wanted to say I was saddened to read about your experience. I don't have much to weigh in with because I am new here.