It's over

[GuyIncognito]

Yesterday was the day she and her family finally came and got her stuff, and now she is completely moved out.

Not to fall short of expectations of shenanigans, she did decide to tear up a photo of me and my other partner that was sitting on my nightstand. Once again, whatever level of hope or benefit of the doubt I might have given her, she has just taken and run with.

Thankfully, beyond that, it was a pretty quick process, and I could tell the degree to which her family was not feeling great about any of her attitude or behavior towards me or this moving out/breaking up thing. They were pretty big fans of me, she'd never been happier, blah blah blah. I guess on some level they're recognizing just how much help she needs and how not "okay" she is.

I'm just so glad it's over. I had one of my best friends come and hang while it was going on, so we just sat outside and chatted and it was way less tense than I would have felt going through it alone. My other partner and her friend came later, after the moving was done, and we just had a good couple hours of eating food and loving company. It was an excellent reminder that not only am I not the person my BPDex has continued insisting I am at every opportunity, but that I have a solid network of loving support precisely because I'm not the person she thinks I am.

Now, it's just a matter of getting her off my insurance and blocking her number. I'll be contacting HR tomorrow to get the ball rolling there, and then let her know when the insurance will be canceled and that I wish no further communication, followed by blocking. I'd previously thought that wouldn't be necessary, or maybe hoped it wouldn't be. But it's abundantly clear at this point that keeping any avenue of communication open can only hurt me.

[SinisterComplex]

Congrats G. Happy for you. Take a load off.

Cheers and best wishes to you my friend.

-SC-

[Lucky Jim]

It was an excellent reminder that not only am I not the person my BPDex has continued insisting I am at every opportunity, but that I have a solid network of loving support precisely because I'm not the person she thinks I am.

Nicely said, Guyincognito!  We need those reminders.

I was naive and believed a lot of disparaging cr*p that my BPD Ex said about me during our marriage and in its aftermath.  She was constantly putting me down.

It wasn't until after we separated and I dated some kind women that I realized not everyone thinks I'm the awful person my Ex depicted!

Good luck and great report.

LuckyJim