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I drived her off Facebook
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Im not one of the. Neurotypicals but have been typecasted erroneously in the past is forgiven}
Here's the dilemma, im a child of the slum, personality disordered yet an adult body is the phenotypical expression.
In short, im not as good as the rest of you lot but my function is to exist to allow for the comparison to be possible.
All i can say is how lucky i am. Its a. Blessing in disguise.
Now {just as. I had to live} in fear. More accurately fear of my familys. Safety . As you can see in PD world theres alot of rivalry. Who is the most disordered.
I mean all i said was 'i like all the updates on where you are, who your with and where you've been hope your keeping well
Not even a reply. Whatever happened? I used to not be able to take a fart in privacy. And since this 4 months ago. ZERo public posts of propaganda. O no!
To end this with a joke. Probably Bidenians or is it elon muskians wont get the transliteration. What do you call a new lingerie shop opened by William. Shatner?
Answer. William Shat'ner pants
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Re: I drived her off Facebook
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October 25, 2021, 03:41:16 AM »
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im not as good as the rest of you lot but my function is to exist to allow for the comparison to be possible.
That is nonsense. No one said you are less than anyone here, and if that's just your own internal voice telling you that, then your internal voice is lying to you.
No one is inherently better than anyone.
One of the best things I've heard during my therapy is that how you allow yourself to talk about yourself will be deeply engrained in you.
If you say you're broken, you will be.
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I never said i was 'less' i said i am not as 'good'
There is a difference and ive had plenty of judgements here to show as evidence, and had my words misappropriated.
Bet you felt better correcting me, its not mere words it's actions, we know this, or at least should via the bpd experience.
And now your put back into place and so it goes. Always trying to be better its infectious, I've learnt it from you!
I notice also what's not been addressed the core of my topic just a nibble of salad on the outskirts
Cant even congratulate me, just a. Drive by invalidation. Thanks a lot... Not
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The only person you're at war with is yourself, Cromwell. I have never attacked you, nor have I ever posted on anything you have written in order to feel good about myself.
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One thing that's clear as day, is your choosing to be very defensive.
I wonder why
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Have i. Ever swaggered into your topics and ignored the topic but targeted the persona instead?
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Quote from: Cromwell on October 24, 2021, 09:26:24 AM
Im not one of the. Neurotypicals but have been typecasted erroneously in the past is forgiven}
Here's the dilemma, im a child of the slum, personality disordered yet an adult body is the phenotypical expression.
In short, im not as good as the rest of you lot but my function is to exist to allow for the comparison to be possible.
All i can say is how lucky i am. Its a. Blessing in disguise.
Hi Crom...
Just checking in on you my friend... and with some advice.
I'm always truthful with you (painfully at times, I know), but I have only your best interests at heart. I know you know that.
I assume the above was intoxi-speech or other unfiltered stream of consciousness. Are you possibly grappling for a way to say that you are suffering from a narcissistic injury?
Some of your actions with your ex suggest that (in the past and present). Some of your self analysis also suggest that.
I'm going to define it here as the internet is loaded with incorrect information on the topic:
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Narcissistic injury, also known as "narcissistic wound" or "wounded ego" are emotional traumas that overwhelm an individual's defense mechanisms and devastate their pride and self worth. In some cases the shame or disgrace is so significant that the individual can never again truly feel good about who they are and this is sometimes referred to as a "narcissistic scar".
Freud maintained that "losses in love" and "losses associated with failure" often leave behind injury to an individual's self-regard.
Narcissistic injury does not mean Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Anyone can suffer a narcissistic injury. Pathology is only associated with dysfunctional coping after the wound.
You are wounded deep down and you are struggling with finding a way to cope. To some extent you are getting lost in different psychology concepts to justify not-so-healthy actions rather than hunt and heal the wound. A big part of that is facing this reality.
Avoidance in intense exercise (physically healthy), substance abuse (unhealthy) or in using intellectual blinders is hampering your recovery. Avoidance is hampering your recovery (not specificallt exercise, social substance use, intellectualism).
Can you relate to any of this? It' not easy, I know.
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Re: I drived her off Facebook
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Crom, friends here. No enemies and mi amigo you are competing with no one. We have your back. Just wanted to make sure you knew that.
Grumpy is a friend too, keep in mind he has his own wounds to heal and has his own journey he is on, and most importantly don't forget we are on bpdfamily.com...we've all got kicked in the nuts. We are family here and we all here to help each other and make each other better. Just like in a family maybe sometimes we overstep or we piss each other off. Hell I'll be the first to admit I'm usually at fault for being the
$$hole, but I'd rather tell it like it is. I ruffle feathers all the time, but I never come from a place of malice and I am 100% positive that no one on here would go at you from a place of malice.
The point is amigo...what is going on? You are fired up. If necessary PM me.
Now let's all make up, play nice and get along. We are all in this fight together.
Cheers and best wishes all!
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Could be.
Something similar happened this week with friends and i realised a few days later it was an inferiority complex of sorts.
Thankfully it seems over at least for now. Thanks for the helpful considerations
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Quote from: Cromwell on October 24, 2021, 09:26:24 AM
Im not one of the. Neurotypicals but have been typecasted erroneously in the past is forgiven}
Here's the dilemma, im a child of the slum, personality disordered yet an adult body is the phenotypical expression.
In short, im not as good as the rest of you lot but my function is to exist to allow for the comparison to be possible.
All i can say is how lucky i am. Its a. Blessing in disguise.
Now {just as. I had to live} in fear. More accurately fear of my familys. Safety . As you can see in PD world theres alot of rivalry. Who is the most disordered.
I mean all i said was 'i like all the updates on where you are, who your with and where you've been hope your keeping well
Not even a reply. Whatever happened? I used to not be able to take a fart in privacy. And since this 4 months ago. ZERo public posts of propaganda. O no!
To end this with a joke. Probably Bidenians or is it elon muskians wont get the transliteration. What do you call a new lingerie shop opened by William. Shatner?
Answer. William Shat'ner pants
Are you ok?
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Quote from: legalboxers on October 28, 2021, 07:18:26 PM
Are you ok?
not bad thanks, your self?
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Quote from: legalboxers on October 28, 2021, 07:18:26 PM
Are you ok?
I think Crom will be fine and just needed to blow off some steam. But, good question, but I would like to ask you how you are doing as well LB? Where is your head at? How have you been?
Cheers and best wishes!
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Quote from: Cromwell on October 29, 2021, 08:32:26 AM
not bad thanks, your self?
Here.. content…
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Quote from: SinisterComplex on October 29, 2021, 11:37:18 AM
I think Crom will be fine and just needed to blow off some steam. But, good question, but I would like to ask you how you are doing as well LB? Where is your head at? How have you been?
Cheers and best wishes!
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I got a pulse.. does that count
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Quote from: legalboxers on November 01, 2021, 09:29:17 PM
I got a pulse.. does that count
Well Hell yes it does and I am glad you do. Hope your pulse keeps going for quite some time amigo. Hope things are at least stable and getting better for you. Keep your head up.
Cheers and best wishes!
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Quote from: legalboxers on November 01, 2021, 09:29:17 PM
I got a pulse.. does that count
count for what? or for whom?
from my (ultra-selfish) perspective, I have to ask, as one does a question in a court that already knows the answer in advance...
"did you like my joke?"
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Quote from: SinisterComplex on November 02, 2021, 01:13:30 AM
Well Hell yes it does and I am glad you do. Hope your pulse keeps going for quite some time amigo. Hope things are at least stable and getting better for you. Keep your head up.
Cheers and best wishes!
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trying to stay with the fray.. Holiday season is fast approaching...
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Quote from: Cromwell on November 02, 2021, 06:45:08 AM
count for what? or for whom?
from my (ultra-selfish) perspective, I have to ask, as one does a question in a court that already knows the answer in advance...
"did you like my joke?"
took me a while to get that
...The "jury" is still out on that...
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