Just Broken Up an Informal Relationship

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

" I don't know how to feel".

Hello, Im new here. I decided to join cause my recent break up hurts so much and my psychologist appointment is not nowhere soon.

Long story short, Ive been dating in an informal way to a 25 year old young woman (Im a 28 year old woman myself); she has been in psychiatric and psychological therapy for 7 years and has had more "formal" relationships than me.

While we had very clear rules about our dating, I fell in love and I thought she loved me the same way as me because of all the things we went thru on these months. But guess what. I was wrong.
We had a very conflictive relationship and the last time we spoke, she said that doesnt want to be in a commitment with me because she just cant fall in love with me, and thats just killed me. I thought we had something really going on and was just so in to helping her and _____.

I feel _____ty and, even tho is not anyones fault, I cant stop thinking i couldve been a better partner/that I wasnt good enough.

I know is not the most dramatic anecdote, but I just feel helpless and like the worst person.

[reneeflowers]

" I don't know how to feel".

Hello, Im new here. I decided to join cause my recent break up hurts so much and my psychologist appointment is not nowhere soon.

Long story short, Ive been dating in an informal way to a 25 year old young woman (Im a 28 year old woman myself); she has been in psychiatric and psychological therapy for 7 years and has had more "formal" relationships than me.

While we had very clear rules about our dating, I fell in love and I thought she loved me the same way as me because of all the things we went thru on these months. But guess what. I was wrong.
We had a very conflictive relationship and the last time we spoke, she said that doesnt want to be in a commitment with me because she just cant fall in love with me, and thats just killed me. I thought we had something really going on and was just so in to helping her and _____.

I feel _____ty and, even tho is not anyones fault, I cant stop thinking i couldve been a better partner/that I wasnt good enough.

I know is not the most dramatic anecdote, but I just feel helpless and like the worst person.

[Kaufmann]

It's awful you're feeling this way. I'm sorry. Why do you feel like "the worst person"?