2 months have passed since nc

[mfdlv321]

Hi everyone. I apologize for my English.
This is update.  (Detail: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=353114.0)

About 2.5 months passed since my ldr ex gf started ghosting me. Yesterday, i noticed that her profile pic became invisible on Whatsapp. From the start she has hided her status so i can't find out if she just deleted her profile or blocked me. My hope was what she hasn't blocked me but now I'm depressed. I feel a sense of loss. She deleted her profile pic on Instagram too so maybe something happened, but i don't know.

Anyway I was keeping NC since I posted here. Recently i felt a peace of mind with NC but now I'm back to the sadness. I don't know how to manage this feeling and what i should do. It's not better to send a message?  I need the help. I'm so confused.

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[mfdlv321]

Then I saw her Instagram profile revived. But on whatsApp it's still gone.
Perhaps i was blocked. But why now...? I kept NC all the time because I didn't want to irritate her. Did she consider me black suddenly ? Was NC a negative method? What should I do... Now I want to break NC to see if I'm blocked with a message... but is it not good ...? I hear that women will not come back compared to men, but is there any hope?

[once removed]

you need a game plan.

you say that youre in "no contact". what does "no contact" look like? what is the purpose? generally, its not a method to use to try and reconcile a relationship.

so, is this actually a situation where shes refusing to communicate, and you have stopped pursuing?

[mfdlv321]

Thank you Once removed.  I'm glad for your message. And sorry for replying late.


Perhaps there are various definitions, but for me, No contact was rather not sending a message to cool my fever. As I wrote in the previous post, she replies once a week or every 10 days. And I was worried every time and sent many messages. The last time she started ignoring, I panicked, so with a lot of messages, I apologized, angry, and begged. I think of myself as an Anxious attachment. And I felt ashamed that my actions looked like Needy or Stalker. And I thought my actions were keeping her away. That's why I stopped sending more messages.


Hmm ... NC is also said to be for healing oneself or to move on. If so, is it a period of acceptance of farewell? Once removed, if you like, can you tell me what to do if you want to reconcile with someone? Should I have sent her a message on a regular basis?


Definitely. One day she started ignoring the message as left on read and then stopped reading. (for 2.5 weeks) I then stopped sending messages. After my No contact started, I was checking on Instagram for accounts similar to her one and follower accounts by my sub-account for a few days. Then this account was blocked. (1.5 months ago) And the day before yesterday, i was probably blocked on WhatsApp.


Ok a game plan ... But to be honest i have no idea.  I used NC to prevent the situation from getting worse and to make her miss me. But it didn't work. She seems to have symptoms of BPD, NPD, and Avoidant, but isn't it good to stop talking to get those people back? What should i do?