Thank you.. tbh my mind is spinning over this one:
There is this one sentence in out last text convo where he says:' I am not as unsafe as you project me to be.'
This keeps me awake at night, doubt myself.
I developed a massive fear of BPD, which is also why I am averse of diagnosis. I find it hard to trust the disorder... and so hard to trust the person with borderline by default. I feel bad and judgemental for that.. but it does feel like a rational feeling to me.
Is this a healthy form of distrust or is he right?
That is a key issue in relationships with abusive partners—they undermine your sense of self and get you to not trust your instincts.
His behavior speaks for itself. Period.
Judee, to back up my teammate Cat here...this is point blank as it gets. ^^^ Your response is in your post displaying exactly what Cat laid out. You are so battered mentally and emotionally you start to lose your sense of direction and confidence in yourself and reality. This is when you are vulnerable and more likely to soften up and make a mistake and then empathize with your abuser...thus essentially becoming a prey of Stockholm Syndrome.
Again, live your truth and don't question yourself. Keep your head up. You will get through and you are going to better and stronger.
Cheers and best wishes!
-SC-
