Hi. I’m looking for some support. I have been trying to leave my husband for about 2 years and it has been very hard on me. I have tried to help him move on and get help for a long time. I had hoped that we could maybe work things out for the children but it seems that is not to be. I know that I was right to leave but it was very hard leaving for a whole variety of reasons and had I not had a therapist and a great family and friendship group I would have been lost. I’m struggling because he has found a new girlfriend. I know I should be grateful because I will no longer be the focus of his emotions and I can recover but it hurts so bad. Does anyone have any advice for surviving this bit?
This is a common place to be after BPD relationship. When they move on it happens suddenly and they forget you quickly. Your mind is in the right place but because of their disordered behavior your emotions take time to catch up. Keep focusing on yourself and the children, eventually your emotions will catch up with logic. See they don’t have that logic bit so they don’t have that transition which throws you off balance. With time you will be in a better place while he will continue living the same pattern of endless inner turmoil.
