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Does pwBPD give sound advice?
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My pwBPD is giving advices to her friend who has a daughter-in-law who is suicidal and she constantly asks my girlfriend for advice since she is aware of her diagnosis. Is this healthy?
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It may be possible for people with BPD to provide sound advice to others where there is no emotional involvement. Therapists, physicians, attorneys can have BPD and still be successful professionally and provide wise counsel.
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Hi, Cat! Always a pleasure to hear from you. My pwBPD would always refer to her BPD mother as her basis as to why she’s like this. Also relating perhaps the step daughter of her friend is reacting this way because of such and such from her personal experience.
Just having a difficult time digesting my girlfriend’s disposition in life because she can say all these things and make sense of it and yet for herself, it’s a blur.
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Ah, Buddy Joe, suggest you search for anosognosia, there is lots on this site. It's a b-tch. Most shocking thing I have ever heard of. And explains why BPD is so intractable to treatment. You gotta know something wrong before you can fix it.
There is a peculiar form of anosognosia which I haven't seen any research on but seen on this site a couple of times. PwBPD go to therapy a little, feel so much better, think they're cured and have absolutely no clue how far they still are from healthy. Thankful Person's wife on this board is an extreme case, and of course we may all suffer from a little bit of that. But for BPD, as with everything else about the disease, it is so severe it is pathological.
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